How to push through when you feel like quitting


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I have found that no matter what you choose to do, the desire to quit or give up will at some point appear in your mind. This has happened too many times to me. Take my blogging for example, often I struggle to take time out to sit down and write. Sometimes I just want to take a break from my weekly posting. When it comes to waking up at 6am for volunteering, I often ask myself just as the alarm goes off for the third time that morning “Why in the world am I doing this?”.

These three things have helped me when all I have wanted to do is quit.

  1. I remind myself that the feeling of showing up is ten folds better than quitting.

The feeling of euphoria and satisfaction from publishing my blog post is one of my motivations for writing. I have once heard that creating is the key to making your soul live. Creating reminds you of your creator and lifts the focus off self. While I have found it hard to start creating, once I started, the dread immediately dissipates.

  1. I focus on the why rather than the what.

Why did I start writing? I enjoy writing. I believe that in this digital age, writing in the form of short articles or lists is the way to break down wisdom from books into bite size chunks. Sometimes we simply don’t have time for a 500 page book, but we can spare 15 minutes a day for a blog post that is relatable and encouraging. It can be likened to the idea of consuming small snacks throughout the day to boost your metabolism rather than having one big buffet for dinner. So when I focus on my belief that if one person reads my blog post and is impacted, then that is worth my time spent on writing it.

  1. I focus on delivering promises.

On my about page, I promised that I would update my blog once a week. I want to be a promise keeper. I want to be someone who can be trusted to come true on her words. I don’t like disappointing others. Even though I may not have a large group of readers, if I can’t be trusted with a small following, I know I will fail when my platform grows.


How to find your calling

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“I have not found my calling.”

“I envy those who have found their calling.”

If one of those two statements resonate with you, then this post is for you.  A calling in my opinion, is something that people would label you if they had to describe you.  Surely you have heard or said such words of praise.  He creates beautiful melodies when he plays the piano.  I love her style of photography, it is so natural yet captures the moment perfectly.  She has such a big heart to serve others as a nurse.

I find those who live a purpose driven life very attractive.  They are focused and not easily distracted.  They spend their free time working on their talent, honing it, never settling.  They are gifted in their area of calling and it comes naturally to them.  What they do cannot be done by the average masses.  When they are in the zone, the atmosphere just seems to come alive and you cannot help but leave being impacted and inspired.

Now you are excited, you want to find your calling also.  You are unsure how to do that, what next steps you should take.  Observing the lives of those around me who have found their calling, I noticed a common theme.  These are three things that will help you identify your calling.

  1. Passion

This is something you get excited over.  It is something you can see yourself doing over and over again without getting bored.  You would do this if failure did not exist.  This is your dream.  When you spend precious time doing it, there is fulfilment and happiness that overwhelms you.

  1. Skill

A passion without expertise does not produce results.  A singer cannot sing without being able to carry a note.  A writer cannot write without a good command of language.  You can generally measure the extent of your skill by the fruits it creates.  Have you won awards?  Has a stranger given you compliments?  Do you feel comfortable showing your work to the public?  Often, we know deep inside if we have the ability to take our passion to the next level.  There is saving grace if you have not acquired the confidence to do so.  Repeated practice can make you a master of your craft.  Find the time to practise, this should be your priority if it is your passion.

  1. Cause

Combining passion and skill produces a job, even a career.  Yet over time a job or career can easily fizzle out and lose its meaning or purpose, even if you are both good at it and love doing it.  This is when you should ask why you do what you do.  It is only when you know that what you do day in and day out adds value somewhere in this world that it makes a difference.  It is when we have learned to look beyond self, instead of wanting to earn the most money or just live a safe and comfortable life, when we are serving others by improving the lives of others, that it can be a calling.

Spend the next 15 minutes pondering these three questions:

What are you passionate about?

What are you good at that others cannot do?

How does what you do increase the lives of others?


What to do when you feel stuck at work


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One of the reasons I started writing again was despite working for one of Randstad’s top employer as voted by New Zealanders, I had a lot of expendable creative energy that I needed to channel somewhere. This blog would serve to be my creative outlet.

As part of my journey of navigating working life, I learnt a lot about dealing with the feeling of being stuck at work. I wasn’t intellectually or creatively stimulated enough; on top of that I was worried that the work I was doing did not matter enough to make a difference.

Looking back, I have come to realise how foolish I was. During that time in my life where I was doing mundane, routine work, I learned a lot about dealing with people, overcoming negative emotions and the importance of handling conflict well. Through that experience, I am able to share with you 5 things to do when you feel stuck at work.

  1. Take initiative

The most important thing to do now, is to take the lead in voicing out to your manager or colleagues that you have free time and are happy to help out. If there are tasks are up for grabs, put your hand up and volunteer to do that task. Get your foot in the door for projects by being available to do admin or data entry jobs that others may not have the time to do. Project work is one of the best ways to learn to work with people. It is a useful skill, no matter what you choose to do.

  1. Networking

One of the best things I chose to do when I had spare time on my hands was to email my HR manager to have a chat over coffee. She gave me some advice that till this day I still hold on to – you do not have to stress out over finding your dream job. This is because sometimes the perception we hold of our dream job is so high, that it is unrealistic, and no matter what job you end up with, it will fall short. The best you can do is to make the most out of your day and do the best with what you have.

  1. Talk to someone who will listen without judging you

I had a friend outside of work whom I will forever hold dear to my heart. This person listened to me complain and whinge about my struggles without making me feel like a horrible person. She made me feel like she understood what I was going through, encouraged me to chase my dreams and not settle for a second best job. It was something I really appreciated at that time.

  1. Keep learning

Whether it is outside of work, or at work, never stop learning. At work, while carrying out mundane tasks, I chose to listen to podcasts that equipped and empowered me throughout my day. It changed my perspective on jobs and careers. Outside of work, I chose to immerse myself in church activities and hobbies like rock climbing.

  1. Do not quit

I contemplated writing, ‘If all else fails, look for a new job’. Instead, I advise the opposite.  Unless you have been in the same role for more than 3 years, there is usually something new to learn from your current role. You also learn the value of perseverance. Perseverance produces character.  Character produces results.  Chances are that you will be just as miserable at your new job because the problem is you, not the job. Learn to be someone who can bring an atmosphere change to a negative work environment. You are the only one who is responsible for your current situation.  The worst to thing you can do is blame it on someone else.


How to make a floral crown in 20 minutes


 Whether it is a floral crown, flower wreath or headpiece, adding a floral head piece can easily transform your look from simple to dreamy and romantic.  Throw on a casual summer dress or simply your favourite pair of jeans and white tee, and boom, you are ready to head out the door for a fun date or hang out with your girl friends!

What you need:

  1. Flowers
  2. Millinery wire
  3. Scissors

All you have to do is simply measure the millinery wire around your head and twist the ends of the wire to secure.

Using the flowers, wind them loosely around the headband and fasten with the remaining wire.

Place the floral crown on your head and adjust as you see fit.  I like to wear it a few inches from my hairline to give it a casual chic vibe.